Most men in the Western World will describe a phenomenon known as "sexual tension". This essentially involves the sexual feelings that a man might feel towards a woman that is particularly beautiful or attractive woman.
Why does a man feel this "sexual tension"? The underlying cause stems from his identification with the characteristics of the beautiful and attractive woman. Seeing such beauty manifested in the body of another human being puts the man in awe. He would like to further understand how such immense beauty can be manifested in another human being.
However, he does not realize that his yearning and desire to further know this immense beauty is nothing other than the desire and yearning to know the beauty of the world that is created by God. Instead, most men identify this feeling with the desire of the sexuality of the human being and thereby remain bound to the items of the material Earth rather than the spiritual plane. This desire is subsequently translated into passion or lust and therefore a man feels uncomfortable around spending time alone with a particularly beautiful or attractive woman without being in a relationship. He feels that he will not be able to repress or control his feelings and will thereby act upon the desires and emotions that he experiences while seeing such a beautiful woman. The man may even try to subtly release that sexual tension by flirting with the attractive woman through dialog or even possibly lightly touching her.
What men do not understand is that most women will not feel this way around men. Women are more driven by a desire for love than the primitive emotions of passion and lust. This is how many beautiful and attractive women can spend time in the company of men without feeling similar feelings. Women are much more focused on their own internal sense of love and attraction rather than superficial features of beauty. Many handsome men might be in a room with a very beautiful woman and yet the woman will be able to fend off the advances of all those men while they are focused on the man that is the object of their affection and love. Women feel this attraction on a much more emotional and spiritual plane than men who typically associate with this feeling on the physical plane.
Therefore, what can the modern man to alleviate this "sexual tension" and continue to remain in the presence of beautiful and attractive women? First, by understanding that women do not typically experience this "sexual tension", many men can put their minds to rest and at ease. If the attraction between a man and a woman is mutual, the attraction will ultimately result in some type of communication or even possibly a relationship. If that attraction is present, the woman will often times go out of her way to send signals of interest and attraction to the man (which are far too numerous to describe here) in order for the man to follow up and initiate a conversation with the woman of interest. Second, a man can try to better control his feelings of passion through identifying the woman as a sister or a mother rather than an object of sexual desire. Third, a man can direct those feelings of passion and lust into a desire for understanding, knowing and loving God that created this Universe and all the beauty within it In this manner, the modern man can ultimately relieve this feeling of repressed passion or lust and instead better leverage his energy towards finding, knowing and loving God that created all human beings on this Earth.
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